When the Screen Comes Between Us

Is Your Teen Struggling with Technology Addiction? Here's What You Need to Know—and How You Can Help

In today's digital world, it's easy to feel overwhelmed as a parent. Screens are everywhere—phones, tablets, gaming consoles, social media—and for many teens, technology feels like a lifeline. But when tech use starts interfering with sleep, school, relationships or emotional well-being, it may be time to ask: Is my child addicted to technology?

At Hazelden Betty Ford, we understand how confusing and concerning this can be. You're not alone—and there is hope.

What Is Teen Technology Addiction?

Technology addiction in teens goes beyond frequent screen time. It's a pattern of compulsive use, whether it's social media, video games or endless scrolling that begins to impact a teen's mood, behavior and ability to function in everyday life.

Teens struggling with tech addiction may:

• Feel anxious or irritable when separated from their devices
• Withdraw from family and friends
• Lose interest in hobbies or school
• Stay up late to stay online, affecting sleep and health

While these behaviors are easy to write off as just habits, they can mirror the same brain changes see in substance use disorder. 

Why Are Teens So Vulnerable?

Teen brains are still developing, especially in areas that control impulse and emotion. Technology, especially social media and gaming, is designed to trigger dopamine, the brain's "feel-good" chemical. That's why it feels rewarding, even addictive.

And when you add: 

• FOMO (Fear of Missing Out): Teens feel pressure to stay constantly connected
• Peer validation: Likes, comments and streaks become measures of self-worth
• Escape: Tech offers a way to avoid stress, rejection or boredom

It's no wonder so many teens struggle to unplug.

Signs Your Teen May Be Addicted to Technology

Not sure if your teen is struggling with or addicted to technology? Keep an eye out for these tell-tale red flags: 

• Emotional outbursts when devices are taken away
• Lying about screen time or hiding usage
• Declining grades or skipping activities
• Poor sleep and physical symptoms like headaches or eye strain
• Isolation from family or friends

If these sound familiar, your teen may need help finding a healthy balance.

How to Talk to Your Teen About Tech Use

Start every discussion with empathy and understanding, not judgment. Open-ended questions, like those below, are a great way to accomplish this: 

• "How does being online make you feel?"
• "Do you ever feel like tech is controlling you?"
• "What do you wish you had more time for offline?"

Actively listen during these conversations for a deeper understanding of their relationship with technology and how you can help build healthier habits.

Reality Check: Technology Isn't All Bad 

We live in a tech-driven world. Technology is often a necessity and can be a helpful tool. Used in moderation, it can support learning, creativity and healthy connection. That's why the goal isn't to eliminate screens. Instead, it's to help teens develop self-awareness and boundaries.

Encourage:

• Device-free meals and bedtimes
• Offline hobbies and social time
• Open conversations about online experiences

When to Seek Help—and Where to Turn

Technology may feel like a wall between you and your teen—but it doesn't have to be. With compassion, curiosity and consistency, you can help your child build a healthier relationship with screens—and a stronger connection with you.

However, if your teen's tech use is causing distress and they're unable to cut back, professional support may be needed. At Hazelden Betty Ford, we offer compassionate, evidence-based care for teens and families navigating various types of substance addiction and mental health issues.

You don't have to face this alone. Help is available.