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If you grew up in a home shaped by addiction, you most likely feel the impact as an adult, even if you've built a life for yourself that looks very different. The emotional patterns and coping strategies from childhood don't just disappear with age. These formative experiences can show up in your relationships, your work life or your parenting approach—essentially, in how you see yourself.
You might carry these experiences quietly for years, unsure how to name them or whether they even matter. They do.
At Hazelden Betty Ford, we understand the lasting effects of growing up with parents who struggle with substance use disorder. Whether you're just starting to explore this part of your story or you've been trying to make sense of it for a while, discover how the right help and support can bring clarity and healing.
Being an adult child of an alcoholic means you grew up in a home where substance use disorder shaped your emotional world. What does that look like? You may have learned to walk on eggshells, take care of others before yourself or hide your feelings to keep the peace.
While these strategies helped you cope in a difficult environment, they can make adulthood harder than it needs to be.
Common ACoA traits include
These patterns aren't personality flaws. They're responses to chaos, neglect or emotional absence during childhood.
Children of parents with alcohol/drug addiction are raised in unpredictable environments. For example, you may have experienced
Growing up in that environment can lead to anxiety, depression, relationship struggles and even substance use in adulthood.
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Yes. Healing begins when you recognize where these patterns come from and understand they're not your fault.
Support groups like ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics) and therapy can help you step off the path shaped by your childhood coping experiences and discover new ways forward for your personal growth and emotional freedom.
With guidance and support, you can learn to
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What are the most common ACoA traits?
Traits often include people-pleasing, fear of abandonment, difficulty with trust, perfectionism, emotional suppression and impulsivity.
Can adult children of alcoholics develop substance use issues?
Yes. Some ACoAs turn to alcohol/drugs to cope with unresolved trauma or emotional pain. Others may develop codependency or compulsive behaviors.
Is therapy helpful for ACoAs?
Absolutely. Therapy can help you understand your past, break unhealthy patterns and build emotional resilience. Many ACoAs benefit from trauma-informed care and support groups.
Whether you're just beginning to unpack your story or you've been trying to heal for years, you deserve support that meets you with compassion and expertise.
At Hazelden Betty Ford, we've helped generations of adult children of alcoholics find clarity, connection and healing. Our care is grounded in science, empathy and decades of experience.
If these traits or experiences feel familiar, you may be wondering what healing could look like for you. At Hazelden Betty Ford, we offer trauma-informed care and support tailored to adult children of alcoholics.
Call now to speak confidentially with a recovery expert and explore your next step forward. You don't have to keep carrying this alone. We're here with help and support.