Mary B. and Jeff B. want other families to have what they have: Their beloved child back from the grip of addiction. With grateful hearts for their son Hayden's sobriety, Mary and Jeff recently pledged a $25,000 gift to the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation to help other families access the same compassionate, lifesaving care. "Treatment is expensive, and insurance doesn't always cover all costs, especially for continuing care services," says Mary. "Living at Hazelden's Fellowship Club and getting such a positive start in his recovery was tremendously beneficial for our son. We feel blessed to help open that door for other families." In addition to the Fellowship Club's sober living and recovery support services, Mary and Jeff point to the Family Program at Hazelden in Plymouth, Minnesota, as a pivotal experience in their healing journey. It was where they came to a deeper understanding of addiction as a family disease. "We were able to see that addiction was running the show for all of us, not just Hayden," Jeff explains. "As parents, we went to great lengths and behaved in ways that weren't healthy or productive in attempting to control the chaos that came with this disease." Living with addiction had Jeff and Mary making excuses, keeping secrets and missing work. "It was like we had the same symptoms as the addict," Mary shares. "As parents, we were living in parallel pain. The situation was unmanageable for all of us." The program led the whole family to the same conclusion, Hayden agrees. "We understood that we were all hurting. We were all in pain," he says. "But more importantly, the program helped us see that we didn't need to keep suffering like that. Things could be different." And things are different for their family now. Everyone knows what they need to do to keep themselves healthy—not that it's always easy. They also know how to best support one another and the importance of keeping the lines of communication open. "Addiction is an isolating disease for the addict and for the family," Mary shares. "It's a disease that thrives in secrecy, and the stigma of addiction keeps too many families from getting the help they need." Mary, Jeff and Hayden want other families to know they don't need to face addiction alone. "Treatment works," Mary attests. Families heal. And life gets better.