Addiction is called "a family disease" for good reason. Family members are profoundly affected when a loved one becomes addicted to alcohol or another drug. By the time most families reach out for help and drug treatment, the disease of addiction has typically progressed to a crisis level for the addict and family alike. Our programs and services at Hazelden Betty Ford are designed to help not only people who have addiction but the entire family—from spouses to parents or caregivers to siblings and children—because everyone affected by alcohol or other drug abuse needs support, care and healing. Through a variety of educational presentations and activities, Hazelden Betty Ford’s Family Program provides your whole family the opportunity to begin your own journey of recovery. Recovery is stronger when all family members understand the nature of drug addiction and are involved in the healing process. By educating you about the disease of addiction and the different ways family members are affected—whether parent, child, spouse or partner—our programs and services help you: Work through the chaos you’re experiencing Set healthy boundaries Rebuild trusting relationships Improve communication with one another Call one of our Family Program locations to learn more and to register. Rancho Mirage, CA: 1-760-773-4114 | Newberg, OR: 1-503-554-4340 | Center City, MN: 1-651-213-4112 The Three C’s Some of the biggest lessons about addiction and recovery come from learning that you can't control your loved one's substance abuse, but you can take responsibility for your own health and happiness. The three "C's" of addiction apply not only to the addict, but to the spouse, parent, child, sibling or other affected family member. The three "C's" are: You did not cause it You cannot control it You cannot cure it Whether your loved one is in active addiction, seeking treatment for substance abuse or in recovery from drug abuse, you can benefit from our services and resources. Available as either a three-day or four-day workshop, our Family Program involves: Presentations by clinical staff and counselors Group discussions Personal goal-setting Reading and reflection Sharing with other participants Through exercises, activities and discussions, our addiction counselors guide family members in recognizing the different ways your lives have been impacted by alcohol or drug abuse. Spouses, parents, caregivers, siblings and other family members who participate in our program are often surprised to learn that, in coping with the fear and chaos of substance abuse, they’ve adapted some of the same unhealthy behaviors as their addicted loved one, such as denial, secret-keeping or isolation. Through our program, families also learn to identify what you can control and what you cannot. Essentially, as a family member, you have control over yourself, your behaviors and attitudes, and your own emotional health and well-being. Families also have control over the allocation of household financial and other resources, and the determination of behaviors deemed unacceptable or acceptable in their home. Detaching with Love A major focus of our program is helping people "let go" of taking responsibility for their loved one’s alcohol or drug addiction and/or recovery process. As a result of living in the midst of addiction, family members often need to refocus their energy on their own wellbeing and relationships because so much of their energy has been focused on the addict. This need to refocus is referred to as "detaching with love," the idea of choosing to be in a relationship with someone you love and care for without losing yourself in the relationship. It means not doing for others what they need to do for themselves. It means loving the person, but not necessarily his or her behaviors. Adapting these new beliefs and practicing these new behaviors does not happen overnight. Encouragement, affirmation and the support of other people who know what it’s like to live with addiction will help you navigate this new territory. Getting involved in your own support group, such as a Twelve Step meeting like Al-Anon or Families Anonymous, will be of tremendous help. These Twelve Step support groups can be found in virtually every community. They provide an ideal follow-up to our Family Program, helping you practice and strengthen your recovery skills. Remember, you don't need to have a family member in treatment to participate in our Family Program or counselor-led support groups. Hazelden Betty Ford offers Family Program seminars at our locations in Rancho Mirage, California; Center City and Plymouth, Minnesota; and Newberg, Oregon. The Plymouth location only accepts family members or caregivers of current patients. Call one of our Family Program locations to learn more and to register. Rancho Mirage, CA: 1-760-773-4114 | Newberg, OR: 1-503-554-4340 | Center City, MN: 1-651-213-4112 Not ready or able to participate in our Family Program at this time? Here are a number of helpful family resources for you and your loved ones. We also offer free, weekly workshops and support groups for families at several of our treatment locations. Call today and a recovery expert will help guide you in the next steps.